Body_Lies!!!
Seeking your kind attention to the two words above,
what on this holy earth do they even mean?
What in the name of the various actions we all get into, is all this
body lies about?
Now, whatever you would read in the next few sentences,
I am sure, you would have experienced in some or the other time of your
life. Wait for it, keep on reading.
“You are such a wonderful student of mine! How
beautiful you look! What a perfect answer! Hey, I am just your friend okay!
Hahahahahahahahahahah! It is real pain when you don’t message me! You are the
best of all I had ever seen in my life! You are Awesome! You are beyond
comparisons! We are the best! Sweetest friend ever! Closest buddy! If you do
this, I will pay you this! Please do not try to compare me with anyone! It’s a
deal! Get out of my home!”
Yes, slowly, these dialogues, from somewhere, deep down
your sub conscious, suddenly sprouted into your now conscious, didn’t they?
This is what I would want to write today. The immense
amounts of emotions, feelings, ideas and ideologies we all go through at each
and every single given point of time and how these are indirectly not allowed
into the scene with body lies!!!
This is what I call it, with what I had seen in my past
23 years of my life. All those expressions, fewest of the few, in the third
paragraph are in some sense related to you. Someone would have told you the
same or in a bit better or a morbid way, makes no difference.
Can you actually identify any sentence which could have
been said with hidden intentions? Yes, I know you are counting hundreds of
them, already! Keep them all aside for a moment. Now think, could any of these
statements mean the same when someone said to you that way! Oh yes, you might
count few of them!
Lately, I had some shocking realizations about how
people can lie! Nerve impulses are so strong, god, I feel as if they really
carry some electric current in them to keep us tortured every single time with
these thoughts. We all tend to imagine, re clipping the whole conversation all
together, trying to observe how the other person was talking in the
interaction.
Selective perception and contrastive understanding,
human minds, we cannot do anything! Can’t we? When a person speaks, we try to
decipher him in the most modern way, better than anything you have known till
date!
When a person speaks up something, wait, still wait,
again wait, wait for a minute, and then possibly give them a comeback. This
doesn’t mean one has to sit looking like a dumbfounded creature before them. It
means, one has to try looking into the depth of the sentences that they pass on
into your brain cells. Decipher them using your codes, no problem. But, do not
fall prey to the body lies they create.
Their body sways, moves, flagellates, rocks, travels,
waves the way exactly you are about to understand it in. That is definitely
what they do not intend to tell. There is something hidden. There is something
you have to demystify.
Your Father, for example, might say “Get out of my
home” with an angry body gesture. Instead of just reacting, wait and try to
decode his body language. He is body
lying. His body lies have made you misunderstand his anguish. This is where we
are all failing.
Body lies is the new generation problem of many people.
Even we do this. Yeah, just think of one, woof, you got it. See, told you!
Sales, one of the most happening, ever continuing
phenomenon has to do something with body lies. You go to a guy, he has this
suit and tie, perfectly shaven chin, neatly pulled up hair, serious grin on his
face, well dressed, extremely well spoken. That could possibly be his first
day!
First days are always crucial; one has to decipher the
logics and codes used by the client or the customer. Getting into shoes is an
old phenomenon, you will have to get into his socks, you will have to become
his shoe horn, you will have to become his polish and you will have to become
his perfectly crafted, extremely comforting shoe sole. Getting into one’s shoes
is not just enough.
Salesman: Blah Blah blah (Routine Sales Pitch)
Him (client): Super, we will plan for it
Salesman: Wonderful sir! Will call you back after some
time.
Salesman: Hello sir! Shall we decide on terms and
conditions?
Him(client): No, We already gave it to some other
company
Salesman: Doomed!
You might have deciphered him wrongly when he said,
“Yes, let’s plan for it.” You might have taken his body lies for granted. You
might have acted according to his body lies. He was hiding his intentions in
his body language. Winner, towards the end would be him. Of course, you will
have to make him a winner, but not at the cost of you losing the game. Your
body lies and his should negate, and synergy is to be created. How? I am not
yet sure, I’m learning still.
This could happen with your parents, twins, elders,
friends and dear ones. Do not fall prey to the endless talk sessions, or the
body lies anybody would get you into. Disaster, it would lead you to.
But towards the end, I do understand that this is what
is completely my perception and might not be true in all cases. But watch out
for body lies people.
That was one simple example of what I could narrate to
you. I can already imagine you connecting the dots in many of your cases, with
different stakeholders in your lives. Please carry on!!!
Happy living !!!
Mr. Avinash Duvvuri
MBA – Alumnus (MBA, 2014 – 16)